Generally we think that social media has opened dating market for those who are too shy to ask out someone they know in person. And you can see where it’s coming from. On the one hand we are able to contact whomever we want, even when this person is miles away. No longer you are limited to searching for partners at your college, at your work, at your town, or even at your country. You think that you are more into foreigners or maybe too awkward to date, you can easily try your luck in it, without even paying for a ticket. So, basically there can’t be any reason why social media may have any negative impact on your relationship. But is it so? Why there are so many articles claiming that social media makes people lonely? Let’s figure it out.
You’ve probably heard it somewhere that our overly connected world somehow becomes more disconnected. That happens because of the social media’s paradox effect. Seemingly it gives you many choices, but leaves you with no options. People are more into posting selfies than into traditional interaction. So, what the paradox effect has to do with dating? Well, that’s easy. As we’ve stated above, your are no longer limited to anything. But it becomes harder for you to choose among many variants that social media offers you. Moreover, your acquaintances aren’t that valuable for you. You know that you can block them and find new ones. Yep, things are that easy with social media.
When you are shy offline, you want to be different offline. That’s why quite often people tend to create absolutely different persona online. Call it your alter-ego, but basically, you are just lying about yourself online. Of course, people get more interested in you. But your lying online is what hampering you on your way to successful relationship. You know that you are lying about yourself, and the main point of online dating is to take them offline. And you simply won’t be able to do that, as you don’t want your true self to be revealed.
Another thing about social media, which can destroy your potential romantic relationship is the fear of missing out. You news feed on Facebook updates every second, and you know that the next post or share can be much more interesting than the previous one. The same goes with online dating. You can’t focus one prospective date-mate. You continue searching for more. Because the next chat-mate can be better. All in all, you end up constantly looking for the next prospective partner, without getting close to starting a relationship.